Friday, July 25, 2014

Word of the Week - Hot

Wow, haven't we had some fabulous weather this week? It's been warm enough to fool you in to thinking we live somewhere exotic.  I love the sun, and would be out all day just enjoying the nice weather, but Neil and my hubby aren't such big fans. 

My word of the week this week is:

It's all I've heard this week, 'it's too hot', 'I'm too hot'. I may have even uttered the words myself. I love nice warm summer days, lazing around at the beach, dipping in the sea to cool down. I'm quite happy to don my nice floaty summer clothes and soak up the sun.... during the day. My question is why does it have to be so bloody hot at 3am? It would be nice for a little breeze to come in at about 10pm and hang around until the morning, just to cool my house down a bit.

Neil and his Daddy really can't cope in the heat. I don't know if it's an ASD thing, but it really seems to mess with Neils senses. He spends most of the day whining about being too hot, that his head is too hot, he becomes slow, lethargic and almost unable to function, and he sweats like mad. I've never known another child to sweat so much.

Getting Neil to sleep on a good day is certainly not an easy task, but with this damn heat it's making it ten times worse. He was still awake at 3am this morning. 3am! He'll be waking up soon too, and so will be tired and grumpy from having little sleep, and then he'll be extra grumpy because he's too hot. My husband is exactly the same, and together they really are not coping with this at all.

Here's hoping we get a nice cool rainy day sometime in the next few days so we can restore a bit of normality in to the house. 
The Reading Residence

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Wicked Wednesday - The MAC Destroyer

Don't be fooled by children and their cute little faces, sometimes they like to wreck stuff! This is an old photo from 2012 when Caitlin got in to my makeup bag and smothered and entire mac eyeshadow on to her face.

If you are tired of looking at perfectly shot photos of perfectly styled families, then head over the lovely Em at brummymummyof2 for her new linky #WickedWednesday where you can view a mass collection of 'deleted from the family album' photos, proving we are all slightly less than perfect at times!


Tuesday, July 22, 2014

An Evening Stroll Along the Beach - The Ordinary Moments

640/360I feel like I was working a lot last week and didn't get to spend as much time with the kids as I would have liked. In reality, I wasn't actually working any more hours than usual, but it was all packed down to the end of the week and the weekend.

When I got home last night, I could quite easily just collapsed on to the sofa for the evening, but I have made a bit of an agreement with myself that I get out of the house with the kids every day, and it was a nice warm night so I thought we could make the most of it and head out for an hour.

Neil didn't want to go out, "not even a tiny little bit", in his words. It's not worth pushing it, once his mind is made up that's it. Trying to change his mind would just create unnecessary upset for everyone, and a whole lot of anxiety before bed time, which nobody needs. 

So while the boys stayed in the house, Caitlin and I headed for the stroll along the coast. It was a lovely evening, and even the sea breeze couldn't spoil the warmth. 

We sat on the sea front for a little while, then walked along the pebble beach. Caitlin wanted to find some shells to take home for Neil as a little gift. She wanted to take home a dead crab too, but then she decided if he wanted the crab he should have come with us. We stood and watched some men canoeing in the bay for a little while, and then went for a little walk around the quay. There were a lot of jelly fish in the water, which Caitlin was pretty intrigued about. She kept asking questions about why they looked so strange, and why they were not like normal fish, none of which I could answer.

From the quay we slowly made our way back home. Caitlin was becoming tired by this time, it was 8.30 afterall. She managed to walk home without needing to be carried which is great, because usually she will stop with her arms in the air and demand to be picked up.

When we got home Caitlin gave her shell collection to Neil, who made it clear he was not interested in shells. She wasn't too bothered though, and decided to keep them for herself instead.

I think the sea air did her good, because she fell asleep pretty easily last night, which is rare for her! I think we'll definitely have to make the most of the summer nights and go out for more evening walks.

mummy daddy me

Friday, July 18, 2014

Mum's List - My 5 goals for the week ahead

Do you ever sit and have a think about what you have been up to and just have a total mind blank? For me, this happens most weeks. It's really nice to sit and reflect on things, but it's hard to reflect on anything when you can't bloody remember.

I have a god awful memory. I keep telling myself, I should write down little bits each day, something to remember. It's a good idea, but I always forget to do it! I will try and remember this week.

So while I sat down with my laptop to make a little 'things I have done' list for this week, I've had to change course a little bit and have decided to instead tell you my goals for next week.

5 goals for the week ahead:

  1. Each night write a little something about the day - a funny story, a quote, anything that's going to remind me about that day.
  2. Get out and about with the kids everyday for at least 30 minutes - We've had too many days sat in the house on our pads and it's not good for any of us.
  3. Keep up to date with my blog - Some of you may have read my post earlier in the week about losing my blogging voice a bit. I haven't posted much of any real substance recently but I'd like to set aside a little time each night and just put a bit of effort in. I wasn't going to post tonight because I was feeling tired, but I've found once I've sat down and started writing it is flowing out, so I just need to give myself that wee push and stop being lazy.
  4. Read a book - My goodness, I don't know how long it has been since I've read a book. I'm not sure I could get a full book read in a week, I don't get much time to sit down on my own, but I want to at least start reading something.
  5. Get up and exercise before breakfast every morning - I know this is meant to be great for boosting your metabolism, and it's something I've been trying to do recently, but there are some morning when I just can't drag myself out of bed early enough. I've been setting my alarm to go off 20 minutes earlier than I need to be up, but it's way to easy to just hit snooze and 'rest my eyes' for a few extra minutes. The silly thing is, I know I get a super boost from an early morning workout, but it's difficult to have enthusiasm for anything at 7am. 

I'll try my best to achieve my 5 goals this week. Hopefully, if I stick to goal 1 I will have my list of things I've been up to next week .

How has your week been? Do you have any plans or goals for the week ahead?

Mums' Days

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Thursday Vlog Party 17/07/14

Hello my lovelies, it's Thursday again and that can mean only one thing, it's time for Thursday Vlog Party! Woooo...

I've really enjoyed watching all of your fabulous vlogs again this week. I know this linky is only small at the moment, but I love watching you all and getting to know you a bit better, and I've discovered some wonderful new vloggers. Long may it continue!

If you know of any vloggers who are not currently joining I'd love it if you could let them know about this, the more people joining the more lovely vlogs we all have to indulge in!

So get linking lads and lasses, I'm looking forward to seeing what you've all been up to this week.

For anyone new to the party, I'll explain a bit about it. Each Thursday at 9am the form will open, allowing you to add your links. You can link a blog post featuring a vlog/ video, or you can simply link directly to the vlog post. Once you have linked up, please share the love and comment on some of the other lovely vlogs. The vlogs do not have to be new, if you have an old vlog which you think needs a bit of love, please feel free to add it!

I will be sharing all of your entries across my social media accounts. I have to apologise because last week I said I'd share on Google+ but I didn't get round to it.

Hope you all have a fabulous weekend!


Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Bloggers Block

The situation I feared most when I started blogging has materialised. I have been struck down with writers block. And man, is it bad! The feeling of having nothing to write about is a bit rubbish actually, and the downtime has lead me to question some things.

I've been blogging for almost 6 months now, nearly half a year! I've been on a bit of a roll, as far as knocking out posts is concerned. I'd often wondered to myself if I would run out of things to say, but it was never a major concern. I figured, if I did lose my voice a bit, I could just take a break and come back when I was ready. In theory, that sounds awesome, but in practice it's a little more worrying.

I've been feeling a bit lost for a few weeks now. Sure, I've posted bits and pieces, but it's all felt a bit meh.

A few months ago, I bought myself a little notepad. Nothing fancy, pound shops finest in fact, but it serves it's purpose well. I loved having a place where I could scribble down all my bits, ideas for posts, brainstorms and just blogging related stuff. Since I started I don't think there's been a time when I haven't been working on a few posts at the one time, and my little pad was always full of thoughts and inspirations.

Then something changed, and I started to lose my way. The notes and ideas became less frequent. Anything I did write down got crossed out. I'm becoming less confident in my writing, for some reason. There are so many things I've thought of, but then quickly dismissed because I didn't believe I could write it well enough. Countless amounts of posts have been sitting in my drafts ready to publish, and then I take a silly turn and delete the whole things because I don't think it's good enough.

This lead me to question my reasons for blogging. I started out with the idea that it would be a way for me to document our family life, for memories, as something we could all look back on. I have always enjoyed writing, it was my ambition to be a journalist as I went through college, and thought having a blog would allow me to do some writing. While I wanted the main bulk of the blog to be a 'what we've been up to' kinda thing, I liked the idea of peppering it with the odd article style post here and there. And while I did hope that people may read and enjoy what I had to say, I definitely was not expecting it.

Those first few months were bliss, I wasn't quite aware how much stats and the like would start to take over, and I just wrote random stuff that I felt like writing about. Once you start to see viewing numbers going up, things start to change. Well, for me they did anyway! I've certainly started to think a lot more about what people may want to read, and it's actually impossible to know that, really.

And I think that is what has lead me to where I am now, stuck with an empty notepad and no ideas. I'm trying to hard to write for others that I actually don't even know what I'm supposed to be writing.

I've spent a lot of time reading the mumsnet 'blog of the day', wishing my posts were good enough to be featured, looking for some kind of pattern, trying desperately to replicate. I've realised now that it's impossible to do, you can't write like anyone other than yourself, and why would you want to? And you know what it has taken for me to come to a realisation? I found myself feeling a real jealousy, in a nasty way, towards blogs that were doing well, thinking to myself 'What makes them so good?', when I know the pieces have been fabulously well written. Jealousy is so awful, it really can turn you in to a monster. I don't want to be that person, bitter and twisted about the success of others, especially when they deserve their success.

I had to step back a bit, and remind myself that I didn't start this blog so that I could become 'blog of the day' or any of that nonsense. I've been so consumed with trying about to write something that might go 'viral' that I've missed out on doing what I set out to do in the first place,which is documenting our family life!

Brummymummyof2 did a fabulous post here which pretty much sums up how I'm feeling right now. And while I know I'll probably never get blog of the day, or have a post go viral, I'm perfectly alright with that, because in 10 years time none of that will matter, and I'll have something we can look back on as a family, which is all I'm really wanting!
Super Busy Mum